Why Why Why

Why?

Why, why you might ask. 

So recently, i had a thought of the word why. Why is why so important to us?

Some of us detest the word why as it could be irritating when one ask too much especially when they do not have the authority or ability to ask the question or to know the answer.

I feel that the word 'why' is so very powerful in a way where it keeps the world- us going. Why? you might ask. 

The word is defined as:

Why 

wʌɪ/

adverb

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   for what reason or purpose.
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   adverb

   1. 1.

      (with reference to a reason) on account of which; for which.

   exclamation

   1. 1.

      expressing surprise or indignation.

      "why, that's absurd!"
   2. 2.

      used to add emphasis to a response.

      "‘You think so?’ ‘Why, yes.’"

   noun

   1. 1.

      a reason or explanation.

As humans we are instinctive, curious beings that are programmed to seek the truth, strive for perfection. However, the very process of how life works has got no concrete answer to it. We end up running and living our lives seeking for something that may not even exist at the end of the day. This inevitably leads us to ask ourselves the question of why. The question of why itself is for one to find out more about an issue in order to gain some form of purpose or explanation of the situation but then again, that itself is flawed as nobody has the correct answers as that is how our world works. There are no definite answers in life and what we are doing may neither be right or wrong since our norms are self established by us human beings. We are all tangled in this web of curiosity in the unknown but this unknown is somehow known to us as well. That we all have to accept the fact of this is how our world works and that it may not totally be of a bad thing.

The word why is the reason why we are how we are today. 

In this life, we need some form of explanation to our existence and curiosity is the only way to help us to discover the unknown. It is the answer to the advancement in technology, the way the world works or even the way our air condition works. All these inventions or even how people's relationship works all entangles the question of why.

For example, Why did somebody create air conditioning? And in that, i'm pretty sure they did not invent it overnight and failures are bound to happen. With the consistent asking of themselves the question 'why', 'why did it fail' was probably the secret to their success. If we gave up on the word why, we would be giving up on ourselves and the people around us. 

Why do i say that?

In the very basis of the word why, the word itself already sparks curiosity of a certain nature about the world and others. We all know ourselves pretty well even though we may not feel that way, we do. No one knows us better than us. However, what sparks curiosity is others. We may not necessarily need to care a lot about others but we are living in this world that is filled with not just us but others. This includes that whole ecology system, the living and non living. Its good to know about why and how the world works as everything on this planet is somehow linked to us all one way another such as global warming and the rising temperature. These may all seem so distant to us in the near future but it all is somehow related to us, residents of this planet. 

Those may be the more distant 'whys' but the closer 'whys' could also mean something as well. Why could also be used to evoke a response be it positive or negative. Why in human communication is a very important word as it not only sparks curiosity but it also expresses interest. In relationships, the word why may be a form of concern. If another is curious of the person, it may in some way show that someone is concern about you and is interested in shouldering your burden with you/ sharing your joy. 

'Why do you seem so upset?' 

Or even something positive. 

'Why do you seem so happy?'

If you refuse to answer or find the person  or the voice inside your head irritating as to why they/ you keep asking why, that is also the day where something has ended as they/ you would already have gotten their/ your answer - positive or negative. 

Positive in a way where they may have successfully completed a task and gained their purpose or that they/ you have completely given up on asking and finding out the why. 

I guess all i wanted to say is that why is such a strong word and we should never stop asking why as it keeps us going. Stay curious and try not regret not asking why or answering the why. 

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Affordable Johor Bahru Hotel Guide. Part 1

Like many i am also a person who loves to travel and will always try to squeeze in a mini staycation whenever i see an opportunity. 

Johor Bahru is a perfect short getaway from Singapore when you just want an affordable and nice relaxing escape from work or anything else!

The current exchange rate for us Singaporeans also makes it great to go shopping in Malaysia.

I've been over the borders quite a number of times now since i discovered how easy and convenient it is to just take a bus over and decided to churn out this hotel guide as i have stayed in a number of hotels there to help you with deciding your perfect resting place there!

Theses are the hotels that i have stayed in thus far 

1) Holiday Villa Hotel Johor Bahru City Centre

Top 3 great things:

infinity pool

free wifi

free breakfast

This hotel has to be definitely my favourite!! When i stayed there, it was only 2 weeks into their opening and i got the room through Agoda at a good $98 sgd. This amount also came with breakfast for two which is always nice. The hotel was new and thus a little dusty but it was just really nice. What made me want to book this hotel actually was the infinity pool as i'm a great sucker for it. The pool did not disappoint it was exactly like a mini MBS and with the price that i paid, it was definitely worth it. The location of the hotel was also great as it was next to KSL mall and there where plenty of food to eat around the area. The room was nice, clean and pretty spacious as well they even have a little platform reading area when you open the curtains right next to the window. A little down side was that the tv only had all the basic Singapore TV channels? not even the Malaysia channels which was quite a surprise to us (maybe they were really trying to cater to Singaporeans?haha.) and they did not have a bath tub. The room provided all the basic necessities just as toothbrush, soap shampoo towels and all that. We had a really nice comfortable night there and the breakfast buffet was not bad as well. They provided the typical American breakfast with toast, beans, eggs, beef, cheese and some Asian cuisine as well. It was pretty decent not top notch but it was alright since it came with the room and the view was amazing as well. I would definitely recommend this hotel to anyone who loves infinity pools and even if you are not planing to swim, the hotel itself is pretty great as well. 

2) Thistle Hotel Johor Bahru

Top 2 great things:

free wifi

bath tub

We stayed at Thistle Hotel quite awhile ago and paid $70-80 sgd at that point of time. However base on my observation of the price on Agoda, it seems to be at the $100+ range now. We arrived pretty late at the hotel as it was one of those spontaneous 'tmr i have no sch lets go JB for a stayca' kind of day so we did not have the time to check the pool out. I was quite excited to stay there as the reviews were pretty great and it seems to be pretty new as well. The location was a little far off from the usual KSL or City Square area and we had to cab out to the mall even though it was just a short drive. The hotel was nice and the rooms were clean and comfortable, exactly like the picture. They provided the basic hotel amenities and to my surprise there was even a bath tub. The next morning we paid for the hotel breakfast for about $40 ringgit if i am not wrong and it was also mediocre with the usual typical American breakfast.Would recommend this to those who want a comfortable stay in a nice hotel and don't mind if the location is a little far from the usual malls such as KSL. 

3)Bello Hotel Johor Bahru

Top 2 great things:

Affordable price

free wifi

The real reason why we chose Bello Hotel in the first place was because of it's price. We usually paid  $50-$65 sgd for the room per night and i thought it was really affordable for a spontaneous getaway. Bello Hotel was a small boutique hotel that was located at the area right beside City Square. We did not have to take a cab after crossing the immigration and it takes about 10-15 mins to get there if you know exactly where it is. There was quite a number of coffee shops right opposite the hotel and City Square was within walking distance. The room was small but not to the extend where it was super cramp and it was comfortable and clean. I honestly do like the place as the hotel itself is pretty new and the rooms are nicely furbished with the plus point of it being so much more affordable than the other hotels of similar standards. Would definitely recommend it to those who need a short and affordable staycation that is right around the area of City Square and the customs. 

i still have these hotels to review in part 2! so stay tuned and leave some comments or questions!

KSL 

Grand paragon

Double tree Hilton

Grand Sentosa

Feeling not feeling.

The first time i ever felt like i wanted to learn to love someone 

and that i was strong, 

and i would not be just like the 'others'.

I hate to say this but when i start to give bits of my time and feelings, 

the sense of reliance and attachment just grew much more. 

I am afraid,

that i would not be like that 'I' that i knew before.

Still in the midst of finding out if i like this version of me 

but i guess 21 was about time to find out. 

Perth, you have been amazing.

Current state of mind.

The mind is now in a state where it feels pretty contented. 

There has been so many things going on in my life right now and i'm constantly trying to keep everything in place.

Feeling the need to improve on my spiritual self in order to be closer to god and learn as much as i can from him.

Just came back yesterday from Taiwan with my SM girls and this trip has been such a great and eventful one.

Feel incredibly happy to have finally went on a trip with them since i couldn't make it to the previous one where they went to Hong Kong and I was in India/Korea

Thankful that we have met so many kind people along the way that has 'rescued' us from being stranded in the mountains (Yangminshan) with the 10 degrees damp and incredibly windy weather where we were freezing our ass off and also the small gestures of kindness such as giving us directions and also introducing to us their local delicacy.

Taiwan has indeed lived up to their slogan of  ''Taiwan touches your heart''. 

Shall do a travel post on Japan and Taiwan soon when i have the time to. :)

The end is near in sight.

Really random thought 

If someone were to ever rape you, 

Tell them you have aids.

On a happier note, 

Christmas is cominggggg ^^ 

A perspective of love.

Love, many of us consciously or unconsciously have an unrealistic idea of love as how the media, our favorite books, our favorite dramas/ TV shows/ movies portray love to be - Something that propels and exhibits this sense of excitement, liberation and allows us to feel this slice of serendipity. However, by allowing this someone, the ONE (at this point of time) that makes us feel infinite has also gained the power to manipulate and to make us feel worst than crap.

This very complex juxtaposition has attributed to the bipolarity of human behavior. Many of times, I have heard of people spilling their regrets or even hatred/disgust of their past relationships just because things did not work out or ended well hindering them from stepping into another due to that fear of another cycle of mishaps happening again. I cannot help but feel a sense of pity for them and their previous partners as the way they describe it makes it feel as if they have not just wasted their time but also the disgust in their voice makes them feel as if the other has tarnished their reputation or that they have degraded themselves by being in that relationship. I understand that it is human nature to harp on the negatives as living in an increasing/very pragmatic world today, finding faults or having thoughts and feelings of inadequacy has became such a normality. This makes me feel disheartening to witness humanity not only losing so much faith and courage but also fearing to pursue this very beautiful and lustful emotion/feeling called love. The perplexity of human nature/emotions never fails to amaze me. How can something that seemed so perfect and solid become so fragile and lost so easily?

Also I came across somebody’s writing on second love. He describes second love to be better than the first. ‘Falling in love the first time is easy but giving it away to someone again after the first heartbreak requires a conscious decision of courage to trust someone on a romantic and intimate level. ‘ Feel like yes, the next relationship will to a certain extent allow one to have clarity on what he likes or dislikes in a relationship but also feel that no, why compare? The first and second are two different people and you are short changing one for the other in terms of one’s capabilities which is on such a superficial and shallow level. Feel like love is an emotion that should not have a requirement it is a feeling, an amazing feeling that a stranger can make you feel. If your previous did make you feel that way before things started to become sour she must have been someone special as well. When people compare their partners, it feels as if you are comparing which person you have allowed more of the ability and power to control your life in both a good and bad way. What’s the use of comparing when inevitably you have already given and are the one who determine how much power you are willing to give to someone who inherently could damage you?

Ultimately, being in a relationship with someone is always a choice and when things don’t work out, give yourself time to accept it, be thankful for all the good and bad times that you gained from the experience. Know that the next who comes along will be able to benefit from this experience as well since you have learnt to become a better version of yourself - more patient, more tolerant, more understanding and most of all be thankful that they have allowed you the courage to prove to yourself that you possess the capability to love someone. God’s greatest gift to us is our ability to love. Love is powerful; it is the thread that holds the entire tapestry of our being. That means that no one else has the ability, means or right to take it away from us. This gift is ours and ours alone and we will never lose our ability to exercise our love. It is our choice. Only we alone make our own decision to love.